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As a christian women I have found that one of the most effortless things I can on a day to day basis is to overshare. Oversharing can be much like gossip, actually it really is one in the same, but for some reason I notice that “oversharing” can be justified much more easily than gossip.

For example I recently caught myself explaining a little to much of a relationship situation to just about anyone who asked. At the time I felt justified in sharing such information to everyone; I was hurt and wanted them know who hurt me, how they did it, and my innocence in the matter. One day after expressing all my built up emotion to a friend, I felt the Lord stir my spirit. I realized that I not only burdening everyone with my emotional turmoil but also was victimizing myself to feed my fleshly desire for vengeance.

While in the secular world such talk is permissible and even encouraged in some cases, the Lord does not call us to be victims. In fact, Romans 8:37 calls us conquers; and we are only conquers through His Son, whom we should really oversharing with.

When I felt the Lord convict me for oversharing my story He brought this verse to my mind: “But Mary kept all these things and pondered them in her heart.” Luke 2:19, to me this was a reminder than not everyone needed to know my business. I knew that I was doing a disservice to the body of Christ by exposing a brother and sister who hurt me, and also was continuing to rip the scab off my wound never allowing God to truly heal it.

Some things are meant to only be between you and God. He is a friend that sticks closer than a brother, He cares for you and what worries you, and truly is the only one who can heal you and fix the situation. With that said, the Lord does not expect us to go through our lives alone, He even gave Mary her cousin Elizabeth to confide in, He wants us to have prospering friendships that build one another up and allow you to lean on someone in troubling times. However, if you find yourself telling all your business to anyone with a head and body to go along with it, you are in the process of oversharing.

The enemy loves when he can get us in these places. It stirs up drama, makes us hold onto grudges, and we never give God a chance to fix us. I think of 1 John 4:20, it says: “If anyone says ‘I love God’ and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.” Oversharing leads us to a place of carrying a victim mentality and that will never allow us to forgive and move forward.

If you are reading this today and someone had done something so terribly wrong to you, and all you want to do is let the world know of your suffering – remember that vengeance is the Lords, justice and forgiveness will be served in due time. (Romans 12:17-19.) Its time for us as Christians to stop complaining to others about whats going on in our lives and start giving it to God. Take the attention off your problem, and ponder on how you can grow through it. Because when you point a finger at someone, there are always three pointing directly back

at you.

1 Peter 5:6-7




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